Anonymous asked:
How do I share my best friend? I am fearing I am being replaced. I’ve never felt this doubt before? I feel extremely stupid.
anditslove Answer:
People aren’t possessions. Just as you have other people in your life, so do they. Each person adds something different to your life, so each relationship will be unique.
I think adding a sort of permanence to people and the dynamics of that relationship will just set you up for disappointment. People grow and change, both individually and together, and what you will want and need from that relationship will adapt many times over. Embrace it and nurture it. Their love for someone else does not devalue their love for you.
You cannot live alone on the fantasies you feed to your mind, eventually you have to touch your life for real, assess and analyze your habits, understand your character, try not to hate yourself for your character as it was shaped when you were very young by circumstances outside of you, and begin learning how to cope with your character, how to build habits that work for you, finish small projects, finish big projects, expose yourself to more uncomfortable situations, assess why you want to leave that friendship before you leave it, raise your anxiety levels on purpose, so that you can grow, raise your work load on purpose, so that you can grow, so that you can build resilience, so that your life expands, and can be experienced by you in full and in reality
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"I have pasts inside me- Ijeoma Umebinyuo, from “Confessions”, published in “Questions for Ada” (via weltenwellen)
I did not bury properly."
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I don’t even know how to put to words how I feel now but I wish I didn’t dabble in it so I won’t feel this way. Probably just not the right people yet.
It doesn’t make you unlovable or a horrible person if you don’t have many friends. It can be difficult to meet new people if you’re shy or quiet or have anxiety. It can be difficult to stay in touch with people if you can’t find the time or energy to remain in contact. It can be difficult to make new friends if you struggle to find people you click with or who are interested in the same things as you. None of those things mean you’re unlovable.
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today my psychologist asked me “do you think you bother me?” because i was crying and i told her i hated it, i hate to cry and i hate to feel weak because i feel like i annoy people, so yes, i nodded and then she said “so you’re assuming my feelings?” and it hit me hard because she also said “you think THAT is real, you think you are a bother and you make that real in your mind. but it isn’t.” and even thought it’s hard to believe that i don’t bother people around me and that i deserve to be taken care of too the same way i do with others or that i deserve to feel comfortable and cry whenever i need to, i wanted to share what she said because is very important.
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Be friends with someone you can sing songs to and not know all the words to and not feel weird.
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gentle reminder
bit by bit, you’ll get there; you’re still learning, you still have time, so please try your best to not forget to take a break and treat yourself for a while
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